Want everything? You'll always fail
By ROSS LEVIN

No matter how productive we are, a feeling of satisfaction is an impossibility so long as we keep chasing more possessions.

When our daughters were little, we read them the Laura Joffe Numeroff book, "If You Give a Mouse a Cookie.'' The young protagonist indulges a hungry rodent and discovers that the more he gives the mouse, the more the mouse wants. He needs milk with the cookie, a straw with the milk, and so on until the boy is left reeling and exhausted. Absent the really cute illustrations, this sounds like many of our lives. To Read More.....

My Ex Overindulges Our Son

By Jean Illsley Clarke

From: Mom who needs help.

My ex-husband is extremely overindulgent, especially with our 16-year-old son, for whom he has no expectations, consequences, gives permission for everything.  It seems as if our son has control over that household.  At my house I have rules and consequences and household responsibilities for him. However, my ex continually interferes with my consequences, learning that he can circumvent them. I see my son's self-centeredness moving toward conduct problems, including lying, manipulating people, and lack of remorse for the things he has done.  He is seeing a private counselor but she has no clue as to these behavior changes.  She has only seen him a few times, and he has become very good at manipulating people's impressions. I tried to talk with her about my concerns, but I felt she was dismissive. What can I do? I have ordered a book on overindulgence, but with an ex-husband and therapist nowhere on the same page, what kind of impact can I have?  To Read More...

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